Making Good decisions

Making good decisions is important for Parents when dealing with bullying. Problem is many times we are not taught how to make good decisions. We are out of touch with our priorities, make pseudo-decisions or get blocked and caught up in analysis paralysis.

Pseudo Decisions

Sometimes we make decisions by not making any decision at all. See if any of these sound familiar:

Procrastinate
Inability to choose
make an impulse move
let someone else decide
choosing against or with the group
trying to work all options
looking back at what might have been

All of these are ways of avoiding or letting circumstances control your decisions.

Decision blockers

In addition to avoiding making decisions as in the pseudo decisions above sometimes we get blocked and find ourselves unable to make decisions.

We loose touch with our feelings
We have anxiety over potential outcomes
We are not clear on or have stopped paying attention to our priorities.
Hopelessness/depression/Anxiety and other mental illnesses
Unrealistic self image or self idealization
Self erasing, dependance or need to be liked
lack of confidence or poor self esteem
Quest for applause or mastery
Perfectionism: Wanting it all
Belief something better will come along
Yearning for what is not while demeaning what is and/or wishful thinking
Nothing compares to your imagination
Fear of self hate due to bad choice
Coulda/Woulda/Shoulda/
Illusion of not enough time
impaired judgement

All of these and more can block us from making good decisions.

Coaches Thoughts

In my opinion people are often stuck because they are out of touch with priorities and/or feelings. Hiring a life coach can ensure you are on track and able to make decisions based on what is most important to you.

7 Stages of making good decisions

Consider all the possibilities
Consider your thoughts and feelings about the possibilities
Relate the possibilities to your priorities
Make a choice
Register decision
Invest and commit to ti
Take actions

It is very similar to problem solving.

How to over come indeciveness

Rest and more rest-Sleep on it is always a good idea especially if it is a major decision
Accept imperfection
Remember the big fact
Review priorities
Go through the 7 stages
Get outside help
Don't let pride get in the way

For making good decisions there is one thing you need to remember. There is one big FACT that I can share with you that will make a difference in all your decision making.

BIGGEST SECRET OF GOOD DECISION MAKING

Believe it or not the biggest thing to remember is that in very few instances is one decision better than another.

Many times we get stuck in analysis paralysis. We keep going over the same information hoping something will change. It will eventually because life is about change. Super serious life changing decisions are very rare. However, whether you get exercise by biking or jogging does not matter and most decisions are like that.

Making good decisions is about knowing your priorities and making the decision based on them. Don't know what your priorities are then that is a good place to start. I can help

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